In today's digital age, social media can be adouble-edged sword. On one hand, it's a powerful tool for connection and sharing; on the other, it often becomes a platform for shaming others. From critiques on homemaking techniques to judgments on parenting styles, it seems that no topic is immune. The idea of promoting kindness in our growing community was already brewing but the concept of shine not shame came from seeing two particular posts.

The first post was a simple homemaking tip: stacking pans with the lids upside down to save space. While many praised the idea with comments like, "I had never thought about doing this!" and"Great tip!", there were also remarks such as, "This is just common sense," and "Not sure why someone would think this would be useful to share."

The truth is, common sense varies greatly from person to person. Our individual backgrounds, experiences, and educations shape what we know and how we approach everyday tasks. What might seem obvious to one person could be a revelation to another. Instead of belittling others for what they don't know, we should celebrate the sharing of knowledge and help each other shine.

The second post that sparked this movement was in a private Facebook group. A member shared a photo of a stain left by a cleaning product their cleaner had used and asked for advice. The intent was not to shame the cleaner but to seek help. While many responded with useful and kind suggestions, others questioned why the person had a cleaner in the first place, with comments like, "Why are you even in this group if you have a cleaner?" and "Oh, aren't you posh?"

Often people feel the need to hide that they accept help with cleaning, fearing judgment and it is surprising how many people judge others for seeking this help. Comments such as, "I would love to afford a cleaner," imply that having help is a luxury only for the wealthy. In reality, people prioritise different services and possessions based on their needs and circumstances. Shaming someone for seeking assistance is unfair and unkind, especially when we don't know the full story behind their decision.

Let's strive to foster a community where we support each other without judgment. By sharing our tips and experiences, we can help others without the fear of being shamed. Remember, what is second nature to you might be life-changing for someone else.

Promoting kindness over criticism and understanding over judgment will help us all to shine. Let's create a space where we can celebrate our differences and learn from each other without shame. By doing so, we not only uplift others but also create a more positive and supportive community for everyone.